SHAYAD MERI SHAADI KA KHAYAL
“ Manchahi ladki gar koi mil jaaye, apna bhi is saal shaadi ka iraada hai”, goes an old hindi film song from this movie called “Waqt ki Deewar”. Hindi films seem to have a song for almost every situation in life.
We all reach this stage in life when the world in general seems to think its time to “settle down” in life. For the uninitiated “settle down” being a euphemism for getting married. And yours truly, seems to be going through this phase right now.
People around me seem to have only two questions in mind: “Mumbai main mausam kaisa hai?” and “Aur shaadi ka kya socha?”. The second question can come in varied forms, “What plans for marriage?”, “By when do you plan to get married” etc.
Sometimes I wonder, whether these questions come from a real concern for me or inability to make decent conversation. My guess is it’s more of the latter. When you have finished asking about the weather, put in a line about the marriage.
And in this day and age where grandmas can use the internet there is no dearth of unsolicited advise coming along. From suggestions about logging onto www.shaadi.com to there being a right time for everything in life. The trouble being how does one argue with something as open ended as the “right time”. Whats right for them may not be right for me.
It also doesn’t help when everybody you know is already married, engaged and will get married in the near future or is frantically looking around for a girl to get married to. With the world being divided into three sections there is not enough space for a “ single and happy” individual like me.
And it really hurts when this is used as evidence against you. “ Tumhaare saare doston ki shaadi ho gayee. Wo Pappu yaad hai, usne to do bachche bhi paida kar deeye ab tak. Meri kismet main to tumhaare bachchon ko dekhna hi nahi likha hai”. Very filmy but very true.
This is something I have never been able to understand. “ Why can’t people except you as you are?”, “ Why do they have aspirations from others?”, “Why can’t they just let me be?”. As Johnny Cash sang a long long time back “ I don’t like it, but I guess things happen that way!”.
We all reach this stage in life when the world in general seems to think its time to “settle down” in life. For the uninitiated “settle down” being a euphemism for getting married. And yours truly, seems to be going through this phase right now.
People around me seem to have only two questions in mind: “Mumbai main mausam kaisa hai?” and “Aur shaadi ka kya socha?”. The second question can come in varied forms, “What plans for marriage?”, “By when do you plan to get married” etc.
Sometimes I wonder, whether these questions come from a real concern for me or inability to make decent conversation. My guess is it’s more of the latter. When you have finished asking about the weather, put in a line about the marriage.
And in this day and age where grandmas can use the internet there is no dearth of unsolicited advise coming along. From suggestions about logging onto www.shaadi.com to there being a right time for everything in life. The trouble being how does one argue with something as open ended as the “right time”. Whats right for them may not be right for me.
It also doesn’t help when everybody you know is already married, engaged and will get married in the near future or is frantically looking around for a girl to get married to. With the world being divided into three sections there is not enough space for a “ single and happy” individual like me.
And it really hurts when this is used as evidence against you. “ Tumhaare saare doston ki shaadi ho gayee. Wo Pappu yaad hai, usne to do bachche bhi paida kar deeye ab tak. Meri kismet main to tumhaare bachchon ko dekhna hi nahi likha hai”. Very filmy but very true.
This is something I have never been able to understand. “ Why can’t people except you as you are?”, “ Why do they have aspirations from others?”, “Why can’t they just let me be?”. As Johnny Cash sang a long long time back “ I don’t like it, but I guess things happen that way!”.
posted by Vivek at 3:41 AM
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