Wo Tere Pyar Ka Gum
On a lazy Sunday morning I woke up to the strains of Asha Bhonsle singing “Chain se humko kabhi, aapne jeene na deeya, zeher bhi chaha agar peena to peene na deeya”. It was that kind of song, which gave the listener, pleasure even in pain. My thoughts went back Suri Uncle, a widower, who used to stay on the ground floor of the building I grew up in. Couple of pegs down, with Mukesh singing in the background, he used to say
“ Beta ye gaana gamgeen hai, is gaane main dard hai”.
“Chain se humko kabhi” was that kind of song. Has a lot of pain. Pain, in the way it was written, set to tune and sung. Not surprisingly Asha Bhonsle won her first Filmfare award for it. This entire thing set me thinking. Do people who write, compose or for that matter sing these “Dard bhare” songs or Urdu couplets for that matter, have unhappy lives?
For a very long time my favourite song used to be a song sung by Kishore Kumar, and written by Anand Bakshi. “ Jab dard nahi tha seene main, tab khaak mazza tha jeene main, ab ke shayad hum bhi roye saawan ke mahine main”. Kishore Kumar was not a trained singer but he was sung some of the most “dard bhare geet”, where you could feel the heartache in his voice.
The story goes that during the period, Madhubala, his second wife was dying, he had almost stopped singing. He returned to singing towards the time she was dying. S D Burman apparently convinced him to start singing again. And we got gems like “Kuch to log kahenge”, “Chingari” after that. Would these songs have sounded the same had he not gone through the experience he did?
My current favourite dard bhara number has been sung by Ataullah Khan and is called “Baddua” . The lyrics are very disturbing and go like this:
“ Tu bhi kissi ka pyar na paaye khuda kare,
tujhko tera naseeb rulaye, khuda kare,
Meri tarah tujhe bhi jawaani main gum mille,
“ Beta ye gaana gamgeen hai, is gaane main dard hai”.
“Chain se humko kabhi” was that kind of song. Has a lot of pain. Pain, in the way it was written, set to tune and sung. Not surprisingly Asha Bhonsle won her first Filmfare award for it. This entire thing set me thinking. Do people who write, compose or for that matter sing these “Dard bhare” songs or Urdu couplets for that matter, have unhappy lives?
For a very long time my favourite song used to be a song sung by Kishore Kumar, and written by Anand Bakshi. “ Jab dard nahi tha seene main, tab khaak mazza tha jeene main, ab ke shayad hum bhi roye saawan ke mahine main”. Kishore Kumar was not a trained singer but he was sung some of the most “dard bhare geet”, where you could feel the heartache in his voice.
The story goes that during the period, Madhubala, his second wife was dying, he had almost stopped singing. He returned to singing towards the time she was dying. S D Burman apparently convinced him to start singing again. And we got gems like “Kuch to log kahenge”, “Chingari” after that. Would these songs have sounded the same had he not gone through the experience he did?
My current favourite dard bhara number has been sung by Ataullah Khan and is called “Baddua” . The lyrics are very disturbing and go like this:
“ Tu bhi kissi ka pyar na paaye khuda kare,
tujhko tera naseeb rulaye, khuda kare,
Meri tarah tujhe bhi jawaani main gum mille,
tu dar badar ki thokre khaaye, khuda kare”
What would make a singer sing a song like this? Or sample the lyrics of another Ataullah Khan song (this one though has some hope)
“Usne shaadi ka joda pehan kar
sirf chooma tha mere kafan ko
Bas usi din se janat ki hoorein
Mujhko dulha banaye hue hain”
The story goes, I don’t know how true it is, his girl friend cheated on him and he killed her and went to prison. In prison he started writing such songs. Some kind prison wardens allowed him to record and distribute his music.
Or lets take the song I mention at the beginning, “Chain se humko kabhi”. Chandan Mitra has an interesting explanation for it in an article in the latest issue of the Outlook Magazine. “Chain se humko kabhi, perhaps O P Nayyar’s most melodious composition, rendered by Asha with abundant pathos, got the singer her first Filmfare award. But Asha had broken up with him just then and since the lyrics could well be related to their relationship, she refused to attend the function to collect the trophy”. Given this, it’s safe to assume that the song would have been composed well towards the end of their relationship.
As is the case above, the pain may not be immediate. Let’s take the case of Ahmed Faraz, who is deemed to be the greatest living Urdu poet. He’s written what is currently my favourite urdu couplet.
“ Zara si garde hawas,
dil par lazmi hai faraz,
Wo ishq hi kya,
Jo daman ko paak chahta hai”
(Translation : There has to be a little bit of lust, what is love if its absolutely pure. I guess the translation is not so much fun)
I remember reading an interview he gave to the Indian Express a few years back. He said, he had had a decent life, and the pain in his poetry was for a girl he had fallen in love with during his teenage days.
And if we are talking about “dard” one cannot leave out Sahir Ludhianvi, known for his obsessive love for the much married Punjabi writer, Amrita Pritam, best expressed in the following lines:
“ Tum agar mujhko na chaho to koi baat nahi,
tum kissi aur ko chahogi to mushkil hogi”.
Or the pathos he expressed when he wrote
What would make a singer sing a song like this? Or sample the lyrics of another Ataullah Khan song (this one though has some hope)
“Usne shaadi ka joda pehan kar
sirf chooma tha mere kafan ko
Bas usi din se janat ki hoorein
Mujhko dulha banaye hue hain”
The story goes, I don’t know how true it is, his girl friend cheated on him and he killed her and went to prison. In prison he started writing such songs. Some kind prison wardens allowed him to record and distribute his music.
Or lets take the song I mention at the beginning, “Chain se humko kabhi”. Chandan Mitra has an interesting explanation for it in an article in the latest issue of the Outlook Magazine. “Chain se humko kabhi, perhaps O P Nayyar’s most melodious composition, rendered by Asha with abundant pathos, got the singer her first Filmfare award. But Asha had broken up with him just then and since the lyrics could well be related to their relationship, she refused to attend the function to collect the trophy”. Given this, it’s safe to assume that the song would have been composed well towards the end of their relationship.
As is the case above, the pain may not be immediate. Let’s take the case of Ahmed Faraz, who is deemed to be the greatest living Urdu poet. He’s written what is currently my favourite urdu couplet.
“ Zara si garde hawas,
dil par lazmi hai faraz,
Wo ishq hi kya,
Jo daman ko paak chahta hai”
(Translation : There has to be a little bit of lust, what is love if its absolutely pure. I guess the translation is not so much fun)
I remember reading an interview he gave to the Indian Express a few years back. He said, he had had a decent life, and the pain in his poetry was for a girl he had fallen in love with during his teenage days.
And if we are talking about “dard” one cannot leave out Sahir Ludhianvi, known for his obsessive love for the much married Punjabi writer, Amrita Pritam, best expressed in the following lines:
“ Tum agar mujhko na chaho to koi baat nahi,
tum kissi aur ko chahogi to mushkil hogi”.
Or the pathos he expressed when he wrote
“Kal koi mujhko yaad kare
kyun koi mujhko yaad kare
masruuf zamanaa mere liye
kyon waqt apna barabad kare”
But he had hope. Even when things did not work out the way he probably wanted them to be:
But he had hope. Even when things did not work out the way he probably wanted them to be:
"Rishton ka roop badalta hai, buniyaden khatam nahin hotin
Khwabon aur umangon ki miyaaden khatam nahin hotin"
But not everybody seems to agree with the above theory. In a book titled “Death at the Doorstep” a compilation of obituaries written by Khushwant Singh over the years, there is an obituary on the famous poet, Faiz Ahmed Faiz. Faiz is known to have written some very depressing urdu poetry on having loved and lost, when he had an extremely happy family life. He wrote a doggerel to explain this contradiction:
" Faiz Ahmed Faiz se badhkar koi shayar nahi
But not everybody seems to agree with the above theory. In a book titled “Death at the Doorstep” a compilation of obituaries written by Khushwant Singh over the years, there is an obituary on the famous poet, Faiz Ahmed Faiz. Faiz is known to have written some very depressing urdu poetry on having loved and lost, when he had an extremely happy family life. He wrote a doggerel to explain this contradiction:
" Faiz Ahmed Faiz se badhkar koi shayar nahi
chaman main rah kar roz maare hai veerane ki gaand"